No matter what we do, it seems that most human beings are attracted to success, just as they are repulsed by failure. What many of us do not consider is that the way to achieve what we want is paved with only these two things, and more failure than success.
Many people today have an image of only successful people who never made mistakes or failures, when in reality, we all do; some make it look prettier than others. Success stories are compelling. However, many people do not realize how much effort it takes to succeed. Failure is a much more common issue than many think and is a big part of what it means to be human.
I find it uninspiring that many people who write about their successes do not mention the struggles and failures they overcame before achieving success. Instead, these writers focus on what they did well, just talking about the good things.
Actually, this makes for a great story, but it doesn’t provide an accurate picture of what it takes to succeed. Perspective is everything, and putting aside the difficult parts makes people think that they can do what someone else did without all the problems that happened.
When I try to pass on wisdom to young entrepreneurs or future leaders, I tend to start with my own story, sharing how it was full of failures before success came and gave me direction. It is important to set the right expectations for people. Entrepreneurs rarely need the hope factor. They have more confidence in themselves than most. I don’t waste my time trying to make them feel like they’ll succeed when they’ve been convinced before. When we talk, instead of talking about how the best will come out, I get used to seeing what happens when things go wrong first.
As a child, my parents warned me that I would fall many times before finding my feet. My situation was not special. Every little one goes through the same struggles as he discovers how to walk. Determination was all it took to find the skill.
It’s okay to fail
For all the parents out there, you will understand how resilient children are. They fall and rise again. They get injured and do it again. If children could never fail or try again, where would any of us be today?
There is little room for error in the education system. Failure to do so may or may not outweigh others, leading to punishment by your teachers and even society at large. He runs the risk of being stigmatized and labeled incompetent; destined for failure because of how these failures hurt the people around them.
In some companies, failure can have dire consequences, such as being fired or receiving compensation. We live in a society that idolizes success and hates failure from an early age. This trend is followed by most people from childhood to adulthood in their careers.
Despite what people say, I think failure is a positive thing. One of my favorite quotes is in Latin: “Vincit qui patitur”. It translates as “He who endures, overcomes.” Facing hardship and enduring failure teaches us how to succeed. Without any challenge, success probably wouldn’t make sense. Throughout my childhood, getting up again after falling often overwhelmed me with the feeling of overcoming the task. The concept that was rooted in me from the beginning has helped me shape who I am today: someone who recovers over and over again. A failure is simply one thing to overcome, and my determination gives me an edge over others. I don’t fail less, I just recover more.
Labels don’t matter
I was soon identified in school as a person with potential. My skills were quickly recognized and much appreciated by teachers, students and parents. I was a genius with anything electronic and I was able to fix a lot of problems. At the end of my elementary school year, my teacher gave me the first computer I fixed in her classroom, believing that I would be one of her most successful students.
That all changed quickly later in school. In high school, I had several teachers who couldn’t stand my learning problems. One teacher in particular found it degrading and mocked me to others by openly declaring (while pointing at me) that if they didn’t want to be a failure, don’t let me be the example. It was during these times that school no longer seemed worthwhile. However, at the same time, I couldn’t stay there without doing anything, so I didn’t. I figured out how to make money repairing other people’s computers, doing my own business, which of course had its daily challenges.
After winning my first big contract and hiring an assistant to help me with the workload, it collapsed without warning. My budget was cut when it was canceled halfway through, but instead of giving up, I decided to keep my assistant on board until more new contracts arrived. Unfortunately, my money was not enough for me to do so, so I was forced to do so. take another job at a restaurant just to get paid.
I struggled with rejection one after another, but what kept me going was knowing the secret to having a hard time and never giving up. My hard work paid off when I found my “YES” waiting. They needed hundreds of rejections to finally find someone willing to do business with me. And that someone had just worked in one of the largest computer manufacturers in the world.
True, I had to start from the bottom. Like so many kids starting out in life, I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I didn’t complain about how hard things would be or the pressure from the adults telling me that wouldn’t work. It turns out that the only thing anyone can do for themselves is do their best and never give up.
In high school I fought. In business, I struggled. Everyone told me I would fail. They were right. I failed and failed. Worst of all, they told me in the face. All in all, this set my expectations correctly. I failed a lot and was told “no” thousands of times. I eventually dropped out of high school, too, but only after my business reached $ 1 million in revenue in my senior year.
Success is based on previous failure
Entrepreneurship is an endless process of improvement through trial and error. Every business results in some kind of success or failure. After analyzing the data from each attempt, entrepreneurs often learn what to do next time to improve their chances of success. By default, this means that you will fail 50% of the time – one of your processes will not work.
Since entrepreneurship is a matter of experimentation, you need to try something. Then you try it a little differently and you go with the best result, repeating this process continuously. In essence, you are learning from your failure.
I fail as much as everyone else. What’s different about me is that I don’t stop when I fail. When I meet, it just means that today I have failed at something new. And if you think about it, there’s nothing wrong with failing, as long as you learn from these mistakes and get better next time. I call it “failing a little better every day.” Failure is a natural part of success. Making mistakes is just one more step towards achieving your goals. We need to change our view of failure. Stop avoiding it, stop embarrassing others who make it, and start looking at what they can teach us about ourselves. Failure helps make success possible. And even failure can be more important than success in itself, because it teaches us what to do right next time.